Is divorce still a dirty word?

So it seems. Though the statistics say that the incidence of divorces is a rising graph,
there are women I know and am very fond off who are still fighting shy of it.
Even though they have more than enough reasons for leaving their unworthy insignificant
other halves to their dirty devices! The reasons are many and varied...!
Must hang in there for the kids' sake. What if the kids are all grown up and doing their own thing?
Do they really need you or does saying this make YOU feel more needed?
I won't get what's due to me. How can I support myself? From the guy's hoarded wealth of course, how else!!!
My conditioning is against divorce. Your conditioning is no linger valid, for God's sake! We are living
in the 21st century - wake up and smell the coffee!
What is society going to say! Who the hell cares? Is society going to come and help you out when you are
getting emotionally and physically battered and bruised? And verbally abused?
And the best of all... I don't have the guts. I am not strong like you! Guess what? I wasn't strong like me
when I got divorced either... I was making a leap in the dark because I didn't want to end up at the age of 60
doing something I was better equipped to handle at the age of 35!
I became strong over the years because I HAD to, living and surviving as I was in a man's world. Because that's
what it was, and still is, and let's not fool ourselves.Dare I say it? I became more like a man! That's what I
have been accused of by a dear friend of mine who is a man. Not feminine enough I was told!
Why did I do it? Because I didn't want to live my life at the beck and call of MY significant other half (halves!) -
compromising, giving, being nice and massaging the very fragile egos that only men have the right to have, looking
after hearth and home while going out to work etc etc.
I contemplated a life which seemed to stretch like a dark, endless tunnel with NO light at the end and figured that
it was better to get used to it, then, than have to do so at the ripe old age of 50 or 60 plus. When you don't have
a choice and can't do anything about anything because one's options are so limited.
Of course, being a divorcee I was at the receiving end of lots of comments, snide opinions and nasty talk including
(by men) "Hey, she is a divorcee. Must be an easy lay...must be desperate to have a man in her life!" You wish!
So here I am. At the ripe old age of almost 60 contemplating (yes, I must admit it) growing even older without a man
by my side - ooohhh, horrible thought, but you know what? I have done so for over 25 years and will continue to do so
for the rest of my life or what's left of it.
I have to still earn my own living but then I know women who are still earning a living while the men in their lives
sit and brood at home, refusing to work any more! So how are they better off than me? At least I don't have to put up
with the frustrations these guys take out on their wives!
I don't have to put up with mood swings, depressions, bouts of new found spirituality, maniacal behaviour, whims and fancies, superstitions, egotistical outbursts, idiotic demands, their trophy girlfriends and bimbo mistresses - ad infinitum, ad nauseum.
Today, I live my life on my terms. My way, as Frankie boy has warbled down the years. Yes, there is uncertainty, there is aloneness (not loneliness!); but all these women who can't, don't, won't leave their husbands, who hang like millstones around their necks (the husbands I mean) are they less uncertain, insecure and alone?
I don't think so.