On moving on...

What do you think, my dear non-existent readers? Do relationships have "sell by" dates? I think they do! I think people come into one's life at a certain time for a certain purpose and when that purpose is fulfilled, for good or bad, we move on. It's a brutal truth, but a truth it is.

Actually people can come into one's life while at school, college or job... And we build relationships that outlast life's stormy passage (My! Doesn't that sound almost lyrical?). We hang on to each other - over 10, 20, 30, 40 years. Help each other. Support each other. Lend and borrow shoulder's to cry on. Laugh and gossip and set up working partnerships and party and drink and a whole host of other stuff.

And then one day, suddenly, it's all over. You don't meet, don't talk, don't call, don't even email! And you realise it's all over - and probably over something so silly, so infinitesimal that it's quite unbelievable! I don't know whether it's ego, pride or what have you but it's like both parties have decided that that's it. Full stop. And you move on...

Really is life all about moving on? We all take decisions that impact others' lives. A positive move for one person can negatively impact someone else's life. So should one not make that move? Should one change one's mind because by so doing one is not going to upset others' lives even though it might play havoc with one's own? To what extent should one place others' interests and happiness over one's own? What price sacrifice? Should one move on turning a deaf ear and blind eye to the impact one's actions have?

We have stepped into 2009. And my resolution was to look forward and not back. To move on and make a fresh start... and I intend to do just that. So then why do I not get in touch with somebody just because I think the other person should be the one to make the first move? Why am I even being just that bit egotistic? Am I just being human and normal? And just like the rest of humanity? Did I set my sights too high for 2009? I don't know! I guess those who know me will volunteer a zillion opinions! I guess I will have to find out for myself and for that I will have to move on... into a new year and a new beginning!

In 2009!