Thursday, August 14, 2008

Isn't life funny?

Maybe... depends on one's point of view I guess...
Like yesterday...there I was in a auto rickshaw with Alan (my eldest son for those who don't know) being driven along by the rick driver, all minding our own business trying to keep on the straight and the narrow when - whoom!... this guy came right at us from the left flank! If our charioteer hadn't taken instant evasive action all of us would have been in ICU if not singing with a choir of angels! Needless to say, I was somewhat disturbed by the whole incident but Alan sagely said that getting high blood pressure about such things would have the same result as being run over. He's got a point! So I am supposed to accept with unruffled demeanour the whole idea of instant death! Anyways, as far as that guy was concerned he must have been labouring under the impression that his father owns the roads in Delhi! In fact most drivers in Delhi - in cars, mobikes, ricks, buses (especially the killer blue lines)cycles, even hand drawn carts - are all under the same impression. Good to feel that one is lord of all one surveys, or in this case, drives on!
Funny isn't it how people think they can get away with bull shit? Take the case of a certain person who has been negotiating with me on using my professional services. After much hooing and hahing, he offered the princely sum of 10 grand a month for being a sort of advertising consultant! On my demurring, rather mildly I thought, he then held out this oh-so-luscious carrot: the promise of, maybe, getting rid of their agency in the next couple of months and then I could, maybe, perhaps, make 30 - 40 grand a month. Wow! If I hold my breath in expectation I wouldn't live to see the day in all likelihood!I think he felt my skepticism because he has been thereafter conspicuous by his absence. Or maybe he didn't like the fact that I didn't ask how high when he expected me to jump!
Then again people are funny, aren't they? Why does what seems to me perfectly logical behaviour seem insane, stupid and not acceptable to others? Also how is it that I spent my whole life as a Mother instilling (I think) tolerance, forgiveness, patience, let the past be past, let bygones be bygones, life is too short to hold grudges or hate people attitude in my kids to find out now, when they are all grown up. that they they believe in having the exact opposite attitude? Oh, the veneer of forgive and forget is there - but deep down? No way! They won't even deign to fling a casual hello in the direction of the people they feel badly done by! Well, I tried!
Nature wins over nurture - again!
And finally, why is it I can't tell my sons (or rather they won't listen) when I don't want to discuss something or listen to their advice on what I should do or not do - but should I even evince an interest in what they are thinking, doing or the state of their lives and bodies - all hell breaks loose. So what am I supposed to have a conversation about? The weather, potholes on the road, the state of the nation?
Life is funny. People even funnier. Yeah right!